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This assignment will explore Ellis’s Irrational Beliefs, but if you have read the chapter on Existentialism you will see the tie in. READ INSTRUCTIONS CAREFULLY.? First:? Complete this worksheet.?

 

This assignment will explore Ellis’s Irrational Beliefs, but if you have read the chapter on Existentialism you will see the tie in. READ INSTRUCTIONS CAREFULLY. 

First:  Complete this worksheet.  You may print it out or download the word doc and answer the questions on the word doc.  You do not need to submit this worksheet but you’ll need it for the second part.  Here’s the worksheet.  BELIEFS INVENTORY.docx

Follow the first set of instructions at the top of the first page and mark the statements that you agree with or disagree with.  There are instructions on scoring following the statements, don’t read them until you’ve finished responding to the statements, then follow the instructions that follow the statements to score your worksheet.

Second:  After you have your scores, note which particular Irrational Beliefs you scored highest on.  Use your top THREE (3) Irrational Beliefs for the second step. 

View the PPT  :  Irrational Beliefs.pptx

Then use the Word doc: What is Irrational.docx

Note your top 3 Irrational Beliefs and use the examples of alternative thoughts/beliefs in the What is Irrational document to come up with your OWN original challenges to your 3 Irrational Beliefs.  

Third:  Write a few paragraphs on how you might use insights gained from this exercise and how adopting more rational beliefs about situations might benefit you personally- what would life be like if you let go of the irrational belief? THIS REFLECTION IS THE ONLY THING YOU WILL SUBMIT FOR THE ASSIGNMENT.  It does not need to be APA, just your thoughts.

BELIEFSINVENTORY.docx

WhatisIrrational.docx

IrrationalBeliefs.pptx

The Three Major Musts ), it can be helpful to be aware of the original ideas that Dr. Ellis noted and his reasons for labeling them as irrational.

Irrational Idea No. 1:  The idea that it is a dire necessity for an adult human being to be loved or approved by virtually every significant other person in his community.

· It’s impossible to be liked or loved by everybody. No matter how popular you are, there will always be someone who doesn’t like you.

· Even if you could get everybody to like or love you, you would never know if they liked you  enough, or if they  still liked you.

· Different people have different tastes. Some people might like (for example) your new hairstyle; other people might hate it. Therefore, no matter what you do, some people will admire you, and some people won’t.

· Getting people to like you takes time and effort. If you try to get everyone to like you, you won’t have any time or energy left over to do the things that you want to do.

· If you demand others’ approval, you’ll always be doing what they want you to do, instead of doing what you want to do with your time and your life. Your life will no longer be your own.

· If you try too hard to be loved or approved, people will soon tire of your constant sycophancy, and they will not respect you.

· Paying too much attention to how much love and approval you are  receiving, means you won’t pay enough attention to how much love and approval you are  giving.

· There’s no harm in trying to be popular, but it’s best not to try  too hard. In other words, it’s self-helping to  want to be popular, but it’s self-defeating to  need to be popular.

· Having love and approval means you’ll find it easier to have friends, to find and keep a job, to find accommodation, etc. But just because other people approve of you doesn’t mean that you’ll like yourself. It’s better to strive for unconditional self-acceptance; i.e., you accept yourself, regardless of what others think of you.

· It’s not pleasant when other people don’t like you, but it’s not  awful, it’s not the end of the world, and it’s not fatal.

Irrational Idea No. 2:  The idea that one should be thoroughly competent, adequate, and achieving in all possible respects if one is to consider oneself worthwhile.

· Nobody can be good at everything. If you’re good at (for example) sports, it does not mean that you’ll be good at music. Most of us aren’t outstandingly good at even  one thing, let alone  every thing.

· It’s good to be successful when you can. But by trying  too hard to succeed—especially if you try to succeed at everything—creates unnecessary stressors. In other words, it’s self-helping to  want to succeed, but self-defeating to  need to succeed.

· To be successful often means you have to compete against others. That means you have to pay too much attention to what other people can do, instead of what  you can do. You can’t control what other people can do, or how well they can do it, so you end up competing against something you have no control over.

· Very often you have little or no control over your own abilities. For example, you can’t be a successful musician if you were born tone deaf.

· You don’t need to be successful to be worthwhile. Being alive and able to enjoy life makes your life worthwhile. Nothing else matters.

· If you’re too busy trying to be successful, you won’t have time left over for doing things you enjoy.

· If you’re afraid of failing, then you’ll be afraid of trying. Your life will be boring because you’ll only do things you know you can succeed at, and you’ll never get to try new experiences.

· Fear of failing means you won’t enjoy what you’re doing. It also means you’ll worry so much about failing that you won’t be able to concentrate fully on what you’re doing, and so you will probably make a mistake or fail completely.

· The best way to learn how to do something is to just do it. The way to succeed is to practice, practice, practice and to learn from your mistakes. Mistakes and failure are not  awful; they are a normal part of learning. Human beings fail and make mistakes all the time. If you make a mistake, it doesn’t make you worthless—it proves that you are a normal human being.

Irrational Idea No. 3:  The idea that certain people are bad, wicked, or villainous and that they should be severely blamed and punished for their villainy.

· Human beings are not perfect. They don’t have total control over all their actions. In the real world, we all make mistakes from time to time and treat others badly because (1) we don’t  know any better; (2) we can’t  do any better; or (3) we’re too disturbed. That’s just the way we are. Believing that others  must do the right thing ignores the real world.

· Blaming and punishing someone for a mistake he makes because he doesn’t know any better will not make him smarter. Blaming and punishing someone for a mistake he makes because he can’t do any better won’t help him to do it better next time. And blaming and punishing someone for a mistake he makes because he is disturbed won’t make him any less disturbed.

· We all do lots of things everyday. Some of the things we do are “bad,” some are “good,” and some are neither “good” nor “bad.” The “bad” things we do don’t make us “bad people;” and the “good” things we do don’t make us “good people.”

· Blaming and punishing people for their mistakes doesn’t stop them from making further mistakes. In fact, they may act worse as a way of getting revenge over their detractors.

· If you tell someone he is a “bad person,” he might agree with you and think he really is a “bad person.” Then, because he is a “bad person,” he will do more “bad” things, because that’s what “bad people” do.

· When you blame and punish yourself for your mistakes, you become fearful and depressed. When you blame and punish others for their mistakes, you become angry and bigoted. Then there is a danger that you will blame yourself for feeling afraid, depressed, angry or bigoted and become more upset. And then you blame yourself for feeling more upset and begin to feel even  more upset, thereby setting up a vicious circle.

· When other people blame you for a mistake you’ve made, ask yourself if you really did do anything wrong. If so, try not to do it again. If you didn’t do anything wrong, you can remind yourself that the other person is mistaken and that they can’t help making mistakes.

· It’s not the end of the world when others behave badly, selfishly or unfairly. If you can teach them to behave better, then do so. If you can’t teach them to do better next time, then you might as well learn to live with their mistakes and tell yourself, “It’s too bad that they keep doing bad things, but it’s not  awful!”

· From time to time it will be you who acts badly, selfishly or unfairly. Just like everyone else, there will be times when you make mistakes because you don’t know any better, can’t do any better or are disturbed. When it happens, you can tell yourself, “Oh well, that’s life! I guess I’m as human as everyone else. I’ll try not to do it again, but there are no guarantees.”

Irrational Idea No. 4:  The idea that it is awful and catastrophic when things are not the way one would very much like them to be.

· There’s no reason why things must be the way you want them to be, no matter how bad or unfair they are now. Unfortunate events and inconveniences happen in this world; that’s just the way it is. That doesn’t mean you have to be thrilled when unfortunate events occur, but getting upset won’t improve matters.

· The more upset you get, the less effective you’ll be at changing the things you don’t like.

· Just because two-year-olds have a temper tantrum when they don’t get their own way, it doesn’t mean you have to have one when you don’t get yours. If you can change the things you don’t like, go ahead and change them. If you can’t change them, learn to live with them without crying like a baby.

· You don’t get upset because bad things happen; you get upset because you believe they  shouldn’t happen and it’s  awful when they happen.

· When things are not to your liking, and you can’t change them, you can tell yourself, “I wish they were different, but it’s not the end of the world, and it won’t kill me if I have to keep putting up with them.” Then try to learn from them, accept them as challenges, and see if there is someway you can use them in your life. If that doesn’t work, do your best to ignore them and do something else you enjoy doing.

Irrational Idea No. 5:  The idea that human unhappiness is externally caused and that people have little or no ability to control their sorrows and disturbances.

· Other people can’t harm you unless they beat you up or rob you. But those things don’t happen very often. If someone abuses you or calls you names, it’s not their words that upset you; it’s your words. You might think they’re harming you, but really it is what you tell yourself that causes your pain.

· Whenever you say “it hurts me, when people are unfair,” or “I can’t stand it, when things go wrong,” you are saying nonsense. Whatever “it” is, “it” can’t hurt you. What you really mean is “I upset myself by telling myself that it is  awful when people are unfair or when things go wrong.”

· Most people believe they can’t control their feelings, but they’re wrong. Although it’s not easy to change the way you feel, it’s not impossible.

Irrational Idea No. 6:  The idea that if something is or may be dangerous or fearsome one should be terribly concerned about it and should keep dwelling on the possibility of its occurring.

· If you can avoid dangerous events, then do so. If you can’t avoid them, then worrying about them won’t help you to deal with them. In fact, worrying about them will probably make you deal with them less effectively.

· Worrying about dangerous or unpleasant events won’t make them go away. Instead, worrying will often make the event more likely. For example, if you’re learning to drive a car and you worry about getting into a smash, then you’ll get so nervous that you don’t drive very well and end up driving into another car. If you were calmer and weren’t worried about crashing, you might have driven better and avoided the smash.

· People who worry about things happening expect those things to happen more frequently than people who don’t worry about them. For example, people who worry about seeing a spider expect to see spiders more often than people who don’t worry about seeing them. This sets up a vicious cycle: First they worry about seeing a spider, then they expect to see one, which makes them worry more.

· There are some things in life that you can’t avoid—dying, for example. But worrying about dying won’t make you live forever, it will only make living less pleasant. Now, instead of having just one problem—dying—you have two problems: (1) dying; and (2) spending your life worrying about dying.

· Worrying about things often makes them seem worse than they really are.

· It’s not the things that could go wrong in your life that cause your worry; it’s the belief that it would be  awful if those things happened. Therefore, to stop worrying about something, convince yourself that it would be unfortunate if it happened, but it would not be  awful.

· Instead of avoiding things you are afraid of—public speaking, for example—go out of your way to practice doing them. After a while, you’ll see there really is no reason to be afraid of them.

Irrational Idea No. 7:  The idea that it is easier to avoid than to face certain life difficulties and self-responsibilities.

· The relief you get from avoiding a difficult or unpleasant task is only temporary. You might feel better at the exact moment you avoid it, but later, you may regret your decision and wish you had faced the task when you had the opportunity. For example, you might avoid asking someone for a date, and feel immediately better because you had avoided the risk of rejection, but later you kick yourself for being so cowardly.

· When you tell yourself that a task (homework, for example) is so  awful that you  must not do it, you spend hours planning ways to avoid it, and then more hours thinking of an excuse for not doing it. The longer you put off doing the task, the longer you spend worrying about it. Instead of just getting it over and done with, you prolong your misery.

· The more practice we have at doing something, the easier it becomes. But if you avoid doing difficult tasks, you will never get the practice you need to make the job easier. Difficult tasks will remain difficult, and you’ll never get the confidence to do them.

· If you spend your life sitting around doing nothing except very easy tasks, you’ll be bored to tears. But if you try new experiences, and work at doing things that are quite difficult, you’ll gain a sense of achievement, and lead a much happier life.

· If a job is unnecessary then it makes sense to avoid it. But if the job is going to make your life easier or more pleasant in the long run, then the sooner you do it, the better.

· You were not born lazy. Laziness is nothing but the bad habit of telling yourself things about work which aren’t true. Once you start telling yourself that (1) work is not  awful; (2) there is no reason why you  must avoid it; and (3) the sooner you get it done the better, you’ll see that your laziness disappears.

· There is no need to make life difficult for yourself by working too hard, doing unnecessary work. But if the job is necessary or will make your life better in the long run, then (1) decide when you are going to do it ( the sooner the better); (2) do it at the time you say you are going to do it—don’t delay it again; (3) if it’s a big job, do little bits at a time; and (4) give yourself a reward after you complete each little part of the job.

· Life is for living. If you’re tired, take a rest. But don’t spend your entire life resting. You only have one lifetime, so do as much as you can with it. Try things that might be difficult or unpleasant at first, and keep doing them until you get good at them and find that you enjoy them.

Irrational Idea No. 8:  The idea that one should be dependent on

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